Sometimes I get pretty rigid in my way of doing things, and my Kung Fu is no exception. In last weeks blog I talked about generating questions. While I still do find it tough to generate a question that asks a question and doesn't seem like I am questioning for the purpose of ego fulfillment, I must still strive to generate properly thought out questions or my Kung Fu will stagnate.
Saturday's morning candidate's class helped me with this. It comes down to a simple idea, instead of saying "this particular move/technique doesn't work for me", I should ask myself "why doesn't this particular move/technique work for me?".
So right after the class, Kody and I practiced some forms that I had questions on. I presented my question to him, showed him "my" way of doing a particular move, then watched "his" way of doing the same thing. Similar but different. But who was right? And that right there is the crux of the issue. I have been asking questions to suit the answer I want or expect, trying to show I am right.
With my question in mind, I tried his way, then my way, then his way, then my way, until I not only saw the difference but felt the difference. Wow, his way does work for me. My now understood problem was I just thought my way was better so I resisted trying his way to the fullest possible extent, dismissing it before understanding it. That was a fairly big aha moment.
So with a 2 degree shift to the left, I think I now see the difference between a question to help with growth versus a questioning something to massage my ego.
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